EMDR therapy can help get to the core of the issues that trigger us emotionally and negatively affect emotions. To recover from developmental trauma, it is important that you have a positive experience in a relationship. Your EMDR-trained therapist can help you sort through your negative feelings and emotions, helping you build a newfound trust in relationships.
It usually all starts with a betrayal of trust between the two parties in a relationship. EMDR therapy can help the patients be less triggered as it relates to the memory of the event or the feeling around it. When EMDR is used for relationship therapy, both individuals need to accept that a relationship is not just about the other person. It starts with being able to accept themselves entirely before they can fully care for another person.
When it comes to working with developmental trauma, we have to remember that the individual often never felt understood, wanted, or received. That feeling has accompanied them throughout their entire life, preventing them from having a healthy relationship with themselves, let alone with others.
The goal of using EMDR for relationship therapy is to allow yourself to be changed and develop a state of appreciation for who you are as a couple and what you have gone through together.